I read about this video in another newsletter. I found it intriguing once I saw it. I’m sure the reason I was drawn to it was that I was never really a follower. I always seemed to find my way in life.

I know from my life experience, I wasn’t the best leader of people in the past. I was section leader of the drum section of the Showtime Marching Band at Howard University. I was weak, too eager to please, and not strong enough to lead others effectively. I see the old me in videos that are on Youtube and cringe.

Times change, life goes on, and people grow. My experience in family court changed me in profound ways. I’m somewhat thankful I went through such a horrifying life event. Some say, ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.’ That is the truth in my case.

I emerged a much more confident, stronger man who began to think critically. I started to see things in a new light and began to question conventional thinking. Things that were assumed in our culture didn’t make sense after further investigation.

I started to zig when others were zagging. I took the low road when everyone was taking the high, and vice versa. I went right when my colleagues went left.

It felt good when, after a few years, people relied on me for advice when dealing with their ex-wives or kids post-divorce. Getting divorced, negotiating a shared parenting agreement where I pay no child support, or alimony is not easy. I also like it when people reach out for my thoughts on succeeding in the world of music. I took a somewhat conventional route to become a broadway drummer, but I managed to succeed in a highly competitive market. I must be doing something right on both fronts.

I’ve also chosen my path during this pandemic. I refuse to do what others suggest I do. I am not going to be miserable and sit at home indefinitely. Life is short. I’ve spent quality time with my kids and have seen more of New York State than most residents do over their entire lives. Shelter in place? No thanks!

Someone needs to be the first to step out and take the lead. Someone needs to raise their hand and ask questions that many are quietly thinking. Someone has to be the first to step out of the pack. Why not you?

A First Follower can make a big difference. Achieving full buy-in and acceptance from those you’re leading is essential.

Derek Sivers created the concept of the First Follower:

How you can use the First Follower principle to be a better leader

So if we want to translate the hillside dancer to your leadership in at work, then the questions become:

1. Why should I care about having a First Follower?
2. How do you get a First Follower at work?
3. How do you propel that into a movement?

You can read all about it HERE.