I just read a story on the Deseret News about the social media reaction to an Oscar Awards acceptance speech.
Donald Sylvester, who just won an Oscar for sound editing for his work on the movie “Ford v Ferrari,” thanked several of his colleagues. He then said, “The real support comes from home, so I want to thank my wonderful wife of 34 years who gave up her editing career for me to pursue my career.”
Donald then added: “But she raised our kids and she did a great job because neither one of them are politicians.” That comment made the crowd chuckle, but made social media furious!
Twitter and the rest of social media can slurp down a big bowl of frothing, warm, brown human feces.
If you are gonna let idiots on social media, who have NO CLUE about the dynamics in your home control your life and day to day actions, you are a fool.
On twitter, Ashleigh Montgomery wrote: “Brava women heroes, sacrificing careers so white men can do what they want & not raise the kids”. Another Twitter user, Adeline Ellis, who was quoted in the Deseret News piece said, “If Donald Sylvester’s wife hadn’t given up her editing career for him, would she be on the Oscar stage tonight?” Cindy Gallop tweeted, “In the future we want lots of women onstage thanking their husbands for doing the same thing.”
- Who are these people?
- Why does anyone care what they think?
- Why was it important for this publication to publish their thoughts?
If a woman wants to stay at home, raise their children and support her husband, what is the problem? It’s her body, her choice! If a man, like me, wants to be a stay at home dad and raise his two kids, what’s the problem?
There was a response from Donald Sylvester’s wife. And it was pretty harsh:
“For anybody to criticize makes me extremely angry, because they know nothing about my life or my family and the choices we’ve had to make,” she said.
The couple, who live near Los Angeles, have two children, now ages 30 and 25, and Penny Shaw Sylvester decided to quit working full time when it became clear that one of the children had special needs and would require extra care.
“I was paying someone to take care of my special-needs child and I realized they couldn’t do it as well as I could. Nobody knows a child as well as the parents do,” she said.
In addition to caring for the couple’s children, she became active in the local school district, where she worked with special education, ran a summer-school program and is now involved with fundraising. “To say that I don’t work is absolutely ludicrous, but what I did do is leave the entertainment industry,” she said.
It’s amazing how many trolls exist on social media platforms. Let them continue on as losers in life at the same time this family makes lots of money, wins prestigious awards, and is a family that actually cares for each other.
Stay at home motherhood isn’t a crime.
Clayton Craddock is and independent thinker, father of two beautiful children in New York City and is the drummer of the hit broadway musical Ain’t Too Proud. He earned a Bachelor of Business Administration from Howard University’s School of Business and is a 25 year veteran of the fast paced New York City music scene. He has played drums in a number of hit Broadway musicals including “Tick, tick…BOOM!,Altar Boyz, Memphis The Musical and Lady Day At Emerson’s Bar and Grill. Clayton has worked on other musicals; Footloose, Motown, The Color Purple, Rent, Little Shop of Horrors, Evita, Cats, and Avenue Q.
Clayton is the chair of the New York chapter of the National Parents Organization and is focused on promoting shared parenting, where both parents have equal standing raising children after a separation or divorce. He is writing a memoir and writes for various local and national publications.
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