Men who are fighting to continue to stay in their children’s lives and winning is going to be the norm. Once fathers see other men fighting a court system that was biased towards mothers for decades and winning, the games couples play while dealing with custody issues will quickly come to an end. I found…
Read moreMy kids
I stopped them at the door before we were leaving today while they were putting on their shoes and said, “I want you guys to LISTEN to me!!!” They were a bit scared and though I was going to scold them. As I pointed in each of their direction, “I want to tell YOU…
Read more“Increasing numbers of single-parent and stepparent families does not strengthen the social fabric but, rather, dramatically weakens and undermines society”
Over the past two and a half decades Americans have been conducting what is tantamount to a vast natural experiment in family life. Many would argue that this experiment was necessary, worthwhile, and long overdue. The results of the experiment are coming in, and they are clear. Adults have benefited from the changes in family…
Read moreDivorce Game
Here is some unsolicited advice to people going through a divorce. Listen to some comedy. When you are grieving and having a rough time, comic releif will help tremendously. It certainly helped me during my battle with my ex. Here is a classic from George Carlin. This bit sure isn’t funny when you are going…
Read moreThe Times They Are A-Changin’
Hey Halle, if you want to leave the country and get married again, nothing is stopping you. You fell in love again, that’s beautiful. I’m happy for you. Leave your daughter in the USA with her father and pay him child support. What is stopping you from making that move? Oh, you want to take…
Read moreHow the ‘Having It All’ Debate Has Changed Over the Last 30 Years – Deborah Fallows
from the Atlantic: I recently cleared my calendar for nearly a month, deleting it all: work, meetings, appointments, dinners, movies, and even workouts at the gym. It felt at once liberating and luxurious, and a little bit scary. I had done this a few times before, twice for much longer times when our sons were…
Read moreAm I a ‘Working Dad’?
By KEN GORDON from the New York Times I’m a dad — two children, 9 and 7 — and I work. Hard. I fall out of bed at about 5 a.m. and stumble back there at about 10 p.m., and it seems like I haven’t caught my breath or cleared my to-do lists since…
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Divorce is deceptive
“Divorce is deceptive. Legally it is a single event, but psychologically it is a chain–sometimes a never-ending chain–of events, relocations, and radically shifting relationships strung through time, a process that forever changes the lives of the people involved.” Judith Wallerstein – one of the pioneers in research on the long-term psychological impact of family disruption…
Read moreThe Career Mystique
The disgraced politician or the retiring sports star comes to the podium and says, “I am going to spend more time with my family….” The 35-40 year old woman talks to her inner circle of friends about her biological clock and the intense desire for marriage and kids. Don’t take things for granted. Don’t wait…
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