If you are at all interested in finding work as a musician playing drums on a Broadway musical, I can certainly give a few tips. I’ve been fortunate to have played in several over the past 20 years and I’ve learned a little from each one I’ve been in. Each of the shows I’ve done…
Read moreThe Moynihan Report
“From the wild Irish slums of the 19th-century Eastern seaboard, to the riot-torn suburbs of Los Angeles, is one unmistakable lesson in American history: a community that allows large numbers of young men to grow up in broken families, dominated by women, never acquiring any stable relationship to male authority, never acquiring any set of…
Read moreIf You Don’t Like The Law, Change It
Several years ago, a friend of mine would often get frustrated with our discussions. I would complain about how crazy family court is and how archaic the domestic relations laws are. He would tell me, “If you don’t like the law, CHANGE IT! That’s exactly what we are doing. When you get married in New…
Read moreDaughters
Six years ago, I made this video for my then, 11-year-old daughter. She wanted to have her birthday party at her dad’s house. I think just about every year since then, she’s had a separate birthday party with me. I remember staying up until about 4AM the night before her party trying to get this…
Read moreBig Baby
17 years ago at 10:10AM, I became a father. My ex gave birth to a 9LB 11OZ beautiful baby girl. Yeah, that’s a BIG baby. In fact, when she was born, the doctors on the room yelled, “OH MY GOD!” I was like, “WHAT?!? Whats wrong?” They said that everything was fine. Our baby girl…
Read more“Social” Media
Social media. So many are afraid of it. So many find it negative, harmful, a waste of time, a drain…and yes, sometimes that is true. I find it powerful. It’s how I met Brandi. I had a blog many years ago about fatherhood/family/divorce/social issues that I used as a way to vent and express my…
Read moreMonday’s
Monday’s are special to me. It has been my only day off from work since I left the day-job era of my life and became a full-time professional musician. Monday’s are the only time I have my kids overnight. My parenting time is from 7:15AM-6PM during the weekdays and I also have them during the…
Read moreShared Parenting
The National Parents Organization just released its 2019 Shared Parenting Report Card which is done every 5 years. The report raises a clear issue. Why must kids miss out on certain family relationships when parents divorce or separate? It’s cruel to have children who love both parents suddenly lose access to everything they knew. It’s cruel…
Read moreIt Takes A Village- Even In The City
As I was walking up 8th ave with my son, a random man walking down saw my little man’s Afro. I think he felt so strongly about the fro, so he wanted to stop him give him props and show him some love for bringing the style back. He asked my son if he knew…
Read moreNew York Fails Report On Parenting After Divorce
This is from a press conference I was a part of yesterday: National Parents Organization (NPO) works to ensure that fit and willing parents receive equal time with their children during and after separation and divorce. The nonprofit works to help children enjoy the benefits of having both parents in their lives. Research shows children…
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