My little man and I played ball in the park today for a while by ourselves. I was showing him how to keep moving on the court, how to cut to the basket and a few more basketball fundamentals. I’m not a coach and never played past the 8th grade but I’ve played a few…
Read moreHow To Network And Become A Successful Musician – Part II – “Social Media”
In my last post about networking for musicians, I wrote about how to be assertive and just ask. If you are a monster on your instrument but can’t seem to gather the strength and courage to talk to people you don’t know, you may be that amazing musician that no one knows about. That’s generally the…
Read moreFive Things You Need To Know About Playing Drums On A Broadway Show
If you are at all interested in finding work as a musician playing drums on a Broadway musical, I can certainly give a few tips. I’ve been fortunate to have played in several over the past 20 years and I’ve learned a little from each one I’ve been in. Each of the shows I’ve done…
Read moreIf You Don’t Like The Law, Change It
Several years ago, a friend of mine would often get frustrated with our discussions. I would complain about how crazy family court is and how archaic the domestic relations laws are. He would tell me, “If you don’t like the law, CHANGE IT! That’s exactly what we are doing. When you get married in New…
Read moreSingle Fatherhood in New York City
In 2012, I was contacted by a graduate student who was looking for stories about single fathers. I think she found me from an old blog I used to have. It’s so interesting to listen to this recording eight years later. Very little has changed with my relationship to my kids as well as my…
Read moreDaughters
Six years ago, I made this video for my then, 11-year-old daughter. She wanted to have her birthday party at her dad’s house. I think just about every year since then, she’s had a separate birthday party with me. I remember staying up until about 4AM the night before her party trying to get this…
Read moreBig Baby
17 years ago at 10:10AM, I became a father. My ex gave birth to a 9LB 11OZ beautiful baby girl. Yeah, that’s a BIG baby. In fact, when she was born, the doctors on the room yelled, “OH MY GOD!” I was like, “WHAT?!? Whats wrong?” They said that everything was fine. Our baby girl…
Read more“Social” Media
Social media. So many are afraid of it. So many find it negative, harmful, a waste of time, a drain…and yes, sometimes that is true. I find it powerful. It’s how I met Brandi. I had a blog many years ago about fatherhood/family/divorce/social issues that I used as a way to vent and express my…
Read moreMonday’s
Monday’s are special to me. It has been my only day off from work since I left the day-job era of my life and became a full-time professional musician. Monday’s are the only time I have my kids overnight. My parenting time is from 7:15AM-6PM during the weekdays and I also have them during the…
Read moreA Pleasant Surprise
My daughter texted me late in the afternoon last Saturday wondering what I was up to. She took practice ACT/SAT tests that morning and wanted to get out of the house to take a break. I told her I was in-between shows at Ain’t Too Proud and could meet for dinner. We had some quality…
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