I just read a great pice in the Motherlode section of the NY Times. When I was in high school in the late ’80s, I took a job baby-sitting for a single mother with a 9-year-old boy. I didn’t know the family well. The father was absent from the situation, and the mother appeared…
Read moreDivorce is deceptive
“Divorce is deceptive. Legally it is a single event, but psychologically it is a chain–sometimes a never-ending chain–of events, relocations, and radically shifting relationships strung through time, a process that forever changes the lives of the people involved.” Judith Wallerstein – one of the pioneers in research on the long-term psychological impact of family disruption…
Read moreThe Career Mystique
The disgraced politician or the retiring sports star comes to the podium and says, “I am going to spend more time with my family….” The 35-40 year old woman talks to her inner circle of friends about her biological clock and the intense desire for marriage and kids. Don’t take things for granted. Don’t wait…
Read moreyou can act like a MAN!
“You spend time with your family?…….Good……Because man that doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man” A great line from a great movie. I feel our culture should make family a priority. We tend to value what we do at work more than what we do at home.
Read moreThe Cost Of Delaying Marriage
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this. The Cost of Delaying Marriage by Danielle Crittenden From What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman by Danielle Crittenden. © 1999 by Danielle Crittenden. This article was published on Boundless.org on August 25, 2005. Our grandmothers, we are told, took husbands the way we…
Read moreWhere all the good men went
There are no good men!!! You might hear that from time to time. Well, if you want to know why there are no good men in your dating circles, read on. This post will explain a lot about where good men went. Trust me, they are all around. I feel that there would be a…
Read moreWhy Women Should Stop Trying to Be Perfect
For Newsweek/The Daily Beast, Barnard President Debora Spar writes about the challenges of “having it all” and why women should stop trying to be perfect. An excerpt: “To begin with, we need to acknowledge that biology matters—not that it determines everything, but that it’s one of those areas of life that probably shouldn’t be ignored. This…
Read moreChild Support, Welfare and Government Intrusion Into The Family
On January 4, 1975, President Gerald Ford signed into law the Social Security Amendments of 1974, which, among its other provisions, created a state-federal child support enforcement program under a new part D of title IV of the Social Security Act. This is now generally referred to as the “IV-D program.” The purpose of this…
Read moreThe Contempt for Dads
I don’t take this stuff that seriously. Guys With Kids is yet another stupid sitcom. I watched the pilot a few minutes ago on Hulu and read a review on the show in Esquire. I’ll never watch the show ever again. Steven Marche’s assessment below of the show is spot on. I get tired of the narrative…
Read moreAbortion Baby
“As noted earlier, this is a song that Michael knew could be controversial and, as a result, he spent a lot of time thinking about the story for the song and the voice through which the song should be told. The song is about a girl whose father is a priest; she was raised in…
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