Perhaps you’ve seen them on the playground. At pre-school drop off, karate practice, or piano lessons. Pushing strollers or running after toddlers. Or even on the small screen, in TV shows like Up All Night. They are: The stay-at-home dads, and lately, it seems, they’re everywhere. Once upon a time, disengaged, distant fathers represented the typical…
Read moreThe Flipside Of Domestic Violence
Do we really need the Violence Against Women Act? If so, why not the Violence Against MEN Act? Has anyone really asked that question, or are we too afraid to speak up? …more than 200 survey-based studies show that domestic violence is just as likely to strike men as women. In fact, the overwhelming mass of evidence indicates…
Read moreMr. Mom is dead.
From the Wall Street Journal article “At-Home Dads Make Parenting More of a ‘Guy’ Thing” Mr. Mom is dead. At least, the pop-culture image of the inept dad who wouldn’t know a diaper genie from a garbage disposal has begun to fade. In his place, research shows, is emerging a new model of at-home fatherhood…
Read moreA Feminist Mother’s Perspective On Why Father’s Matter
There is great stuff on the site Good Men Project. I like to hear things from a woman’s perspective. Sometimes it is best for people to hear things from women because they might find it easier to hear. What she is saying is pretty obvious to me. It is apparently not obvious to two generations…
Read moreChildren Need To Know The Love Of Both Parents
Marry Him!
Lori Gottlieb explains why women should stop holding out for Mr. Right From The Atlantic: “Ah, this is the dream,” I said, and we nodded in silence for a minute, then burst out laughing. In some ways, I meant it: we’d both dreamed of motherhood, and here we were, picnicking in the park with our…
Read moreMen not marrying? How deep does “the problem” go
From Girl Writes What Men used to be able to derive a positive male identity from marriage. That is, through the respected and uniquely male role of husband and father. When that identity is increasingly characterized by society as superfluous, obsolete, or in the words of Harriet Harman, unnecessary to social cohesion, it is…
Read moreManhood & Anger – What Dads Can Teach
In a recent post in Psychology Today , Mark Banschick, M.D wrote a great explanation of the connection between fathers and sons and why fathers are needed. Single parenthood is not easy for fathers or mothers. The notion of choosing single parenthood is foolish. There are clear reasons why it is a bad idea. Here are a…
Read moreLegacy
My grandmother was born in 1918. Yes, the end of World War I. That is a long time ago. She is still alive and kicking and has lots of stories to tell. I am getting as many of them as I can because she has lived for almost 95 years. She is one hard working…
Read moreThat Loving Feeling Takes a Lot of Work
In an article called “That Loving Feeling Takes A Lot Of Work, Jane E. Brody writes: When people fall in love and decide to marry, the expectation is nearly always that love and marriage and the happiness they bring will last; as the vows say, till death do us part. Only the most cynical among…
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