My little man has grown out his “fro” as he calls it. I ain’t mad at him. He has worked on this over the past four months. Maybe he is ready to take a knee, play for the 49ers, be part of the resistance or just be the coolest son this father could ever want….
Read moreRemote Parent
I tasted a bit of the life of a father who is cut off from his kids. I’ve been away from my kids since July 9th of this year. The last time I saw them was in the middle of August, and that was only for about five hours. It is the beginning of…
Read moreI Miss My Kids
One thing I learned from being away from my kids since July 9th is that I’ll NEVER AGAIN take chances on future success. Never again. NE-VER! My days of “hoping things will work out” ended as of right now. I won’t do anything with the hope that things will get better in some unspecified…
Read moreToo Little-Too Late
I woke up a few days ago to a tweet from Paul Elam linking an article on his site “A voice For Men.” It was called A Father’s Lament. I have been reading A Voice For Men for years. I stopped over the past few because I haven’t found the information useful at this point…
Read moreThey Grow Fast!
Either someone at Google Photos is watching all of my videos to compile this, or the facial recognition technology is pretty damn good. I didn’t put this together. I found it in my “movies” section online. I think it’s pretty cool but creepy. I remember every single frame of this (probably because I took the…
Read moreHow do you spell dad? It goes L-O-V-E
Waking up at the crack of dawn sucks. It just does. Well, it does for me. I’ve never been a morning person. I never will be. I like to get up at about 9 or 10AM. Well, that’s just not the life I’ve chosen to live. You see, I get up so early for a…
Read moreBoy Scouts and Girl Scouts
The Boy Scouts of America announced on Wednesday October 11, 2017 that it will admit girls into the Cub Scouts starting next year and establish a new program for older girls using the organization’s same curriculum. What is the point of having girls in the boy scouts? I have no idea other than pandering…
Read moreResponsibility
Looking back at how my parents raised me, I realize how important the lessons of responsibility are to children. I remember my father always reminding me to clean my room. He would make me take out the garbage, mow the lawn, help wash his car and clean the garage. He would offer to wash the…
Read moreSingle Fatherhood in New York City
Back in 2012, I completed an interview for a Columbia University graduate student of journalism named Acacia Squires. She found me through a post I made on a website about single parenthood and thought I would be a good person to talk with about my experiences being a single father in New York City. I…
Read moreWhy I REFUSE To Pay Child Support
When people ask me how can I be divorced with two children and pay no child support, I tell them I took a cue from Nancy Reagan; I “just said no.” I took the road less traveled. For the past twenty years, I’ve been fortunate to be a full-time musician. Since our daughter’s birth in…
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