An excerpt from this article: http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5398922
Four years ago The Father Project was born and I took to my Facebook page to document my journey. I carried a picture of my father or something to remind me of him each day. I spoke to his friends and siblings intending to understand his world and how he became the violent, unhappy man I knew him to be. I interviewed fathers who are present, protective, and loving toward their spouses and children to have a greater understanding of what conscious and mature love can be. I visited my father’s gravesite, which I had not done since his death. Each day I wrote I in my journal, nurtured the little girl within me who needed love, and reached out to men who I had mistreated.
This journey helped me understand and fully grasp the power of being a woman and what that means to our children. My anger and unhappiness acted as invisible agent, informing and influencing everyone in my environment. Nothing could thrive in my space. I awakened to the influence women have in our world, even when we see ourselves as victims and powerless. I came to see the split from my ex was not the source for my anger but a light shining upon it. This discovery assisted me in taking responsibility for my participation and creation in the current breakdown my son’s father and I were experiencing. The results were not miraculous, but within a month’s time, I had begun the process of shifting my unconscious behavior, healing my anger, and nurturing myself. I started extending myself to my son’s father, and within about a year our relationship completely transformed. The inner work I’d done allowed me to soften and to listen better. For years I’d wanted to hear him apologize, but after completing The Father Project, it no longer mattered.
In honor of my distraught friend and the children who suffer because of their parents’ anger and distrust, I will be facilitating The Father Project starting this week. All women who yearn to have healthy relationships with their fathers and their children’s fathers are welcome. I even welcome women who are currently experiencing healthy relationships with men to offer a model for those of us who struggle. There is no investment, other than a willingness and sincere desire to shift the energy within our hearts, so that our children may experience harmony between their parents. My role will be to facilitate healing and forgiveness, and to encourage the parties to find a place of peace within.
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