I discovered the Socratic method many years ago and found it fascinating. When you start asking people questions and digging deeper into what people are feeling and thinking, they tend to either feel cornered or threatened – or realize what they were thinking didn’t make sense after all. With this newsletter, I‘ll share some of…
Read moreChris Atkins Is Not The Biological Father But Still Has To Pay Child Support
Chris Atkins has proven through a DNA test that he’s not the father of his ex-wife’s daughter. The girl was was 2 1/2 years old when the couple divorced. The truth was not revealed until their daughter was 11 years old. Since his name remains on the birth certificate, he is legally obligated to keep…
Read moreA Mani-Pedi and Opting Out Of Child Support
I completed my fist mani-pedi last week. The last time I tried was in 2007. I received a gift certificate for Father’s day back then from my family to get a haircut, facial, manicure and pedicure from a place called BBraxton in Harlem. I thought it was cool because I had never had a gift…
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Divorced dads: Family court system is broken -Lisa Ling
You all are so behind this #metoo stuff? Good. Here is another movement we all should rally around. Alienated parents. The ability for fathers to share equally in the rearing of their children. Shared parenting as the default in divorce cases in all 50 states. Ten years ago when I was going through my ordeal,…
Read moreDr. Warren Farrell – The Boy Crisis
I’m an advocate for the equal treatment of fathers, especially in the family court system. In the past, I have worked with The National Parents Organization to help change the laws in New York State. I’ve written for The Good Men Project, A Voice For Men and have written extensively on my blog The SoCraddock…
Read moreToo Little-Too Late
I woke up a few days ago to a tweet from Paul Elam linking an article on his site “A voice For Men.” It was called A Father’s Lament. I have been reading A Voice For Men for years. I stopped over the past few because I haven’t found the information useful at this point…
Read moreWhy I REFUSE To Pay Child Support
When people ask me how can I be divorced with two children and pay no child support, I tell them I took a cue from Nancy Reagan; I “just said no.” I took the road less traveled. For the past twenty years, I’ve been fortunate to be a full-time musician. Since our daughter’s birth in…
Read moreHow America’s Child Support System Failed To Keep Up With The Times
From NPR: http://www.npr.org/2015/11/19/456632896/how-u-s-parents-racked-up-113-billion-in-child-support-debt When the U.S. child support collection system was set up in 1975 under President Gerald Ford — a child of divorce whose father failed to pay court-ordered child support — the country, and the typical family, looked very different from today. And as the nation’s social, economic and demographic landscape has shifted, the…
Read moreIt is too late
Men It seems as if we have this, “I will figure it all out” mentality embedded in us. We may hear things from older people or from those who may have gone through a similar life experience, but we think we can find a better way to design the wheel. Sometimes it saddens me. I…
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