“Divorce is deceptive. Legally it is a single event, but psychologically it is a chain–sometimes a never-ending chain–of events, relocations, and radically shifting relationships strung through time, a process that forever changes the lives of the people involved.” Judith Wallerstein – one of the pioneers in research on the long-term psychological impact of family disruption…
Read moreThe Career Mystique
The disgraced politician or the retiring sports star comes to the podium and says, “I am going to spend more time with my family….” The 35-40 year old woman talks to her inner circle of friends about her biological clock and the intense desire for marriage and kids. Don’t take things for granted. Don’t wait…
Read moreThe Cost Of Delaying Marriage
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this. The Cost of Delaying Marriage by Danielle Crittenden From What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman by Danielle Crittenden. © 1999 by Danielle Crittenden. This article was published on Boundless.org on August 25, 2005. Our grandmothers, we are told, took husbands the way we…
Read moreWhy Women Should Stop Trying to Be Perfect
For Newsweek/The Daily Beast, Barnard President Debora Spar writes about the challenges of “having it all” and why women should stop trying to be perfect. An excerpt: “To begin with, we need to acknowledge that biology matters—not that it determines everything, but that it’s one of those areas of life that probably shouldn’t be ignored. This…
Read moreThe Contempt for Dads
I don’t take this stuff that seriously. Guys With Kids is yet another stupid sitcom. I watched the pilot a few minutes ago on Hulu and read a review on the show in Esquire. I’ll never watch the show ever again. Steven Marche’s assessment below of the show is spot on. I get tired of the narrative…
Read moreMAN UP!!! This is life…welcome to the real world
Having kids will change everything. It seems that things are magical after you find out you are about to have a baby. You have the baby shower, get the gifts, you go out and purchase the crib, look at strollers, paint the baby room, plan for all kinds of things. You enter the real world…
Read moreThe Evolution of Dad
The Film We are told by American culture that fatherhood is important, but the real, underlying message is: “Back to work, dads!” The result: millions of people are growing up with absentee dads. What’s worse is that so many of them are blissfully unaware of the damage done to their lives. How did this happen?…
Read moreI left YOU, not my child
If your relationship with your wife or girlfriend ends, please remember that your relationship with your children does not. Assuming that the father is the one to leave the home if the adult relationship breaks down is no longer the case in the new millennium. Men, take charge of your life and your relationship to your…
Read moreLife To Her Years
I found this blog on Tumblr. I think it’s great. “This blog is a combination of the parenting style I’m trying to adopt and my attempt to capture the numerous thoughts I have as the doting father of a beautiful and precious little young lady who I’d like to see grow up and mature into…
Read moreParental Alienation
The same rule applies for fathers who use their kids as pawns. It is NEVER a good idea to use your children to hurt your ex.
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