“The parental characteristics that employers value and are willing to pay for, such as skills, diligence, honesty, good health, and reliability, also improve children’s life chances, independent of their effect on parents’ income,” Susan Mayer writes in her book “What Money Can’t Buy.” “Children of parents with these attributes do well even when their parents…
Read moreDivorce Game
Here is some unsolicited advice to people going through a divorce. Listen to some comedy. When you are grieving and having a rough time, comic releif will help tremendously. It certainly helped me during my battle with my ex. Here is a classic from George Carlin. This bit sure isn’t funny when you are going…
Read moreThe Times They Are A-Changin’
Hey Halle, if you want to leave the country and get married again, nothing is stopping you. You fell in love again, that’s beautiful. I’m happy for you. Leave your daughter in the USA with her father and pay him child support. What is stopping you from making that move? Oh, you want to take…
Read moreAm I a ‘Working Dad’?
By KEN GORDON from the New York Times I’m a dad — two children, 9 and 7 — and I work. Hard. I fall out of bed at about 5 a.m. and stumble back there at about 10 p.m., and it seems like I haven’t caught my breath or cleared my to-do lists since…
Read moreI’M A MOM
This is a GREAT article. I saw it in the New Yorker Magazine and thought I’d share. Please read it when you get a chance: Mrs. Romney says there would not even be an America without moms, and she is totally right about that. We would just be a nation of dads, who, let’s face…
Read more‘Sleepovers’ With My 9-Year-Old Daughter
I just read a great pice in the Motherlode section of the NY Times. When I was in high school in the late ’80s, I took a job baby-sitting for a single mother with a 9-year-old boy. I didn’t know the family well. The father was absent from the situation, and the mother appeared…
Read moreDivorce is deceptive
“Divorce is deceptive. Legally it is a single event, but psychologically it is a chain–sometimes a never-ending chain–of events, relocations, and radically shifting relationships strung through time, a process that forever changes the lives of the people involved.” Judith Wallerstein – one of the pioneers in research on the long-term psychological impact of family disruption…
Read moreThe Career Mystique
The disgraced politician or the retiring sports star comes to the podium and says, “I am going to spend more time with my family….” The 35-40 year old woman talks to her inner circle of friends about her biological clock and the intense desire for marriage and kids. Don’t take things for granted. Don’t wait…
Read moreyou can act like a MAN!
“You spend time with your family?…….Good……Because man that doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man” A great line from a great movie. I feel our culture should make family a priority. We tend to value what we do at work more than what we do at home.
Read moreThe Cost Of Delaying Marriage
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this. The Cost of Delaying Marriage by Danielle Crittenden From What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman by Danielle Crittenden. © 1999 by Danielle Crittenden. This article was published on Boundless.org on August 25, 2005. Our grandmothers, we are told, took husbands the way we…
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