Single Fatherhood in New York City

Back in 2012, I completed an interview for a Columbia University graduate student of journalism named Acacia Squires. She found me through a post I made on a website about single parenthood and thought I would be a good person to talk with about my experiences being a single father in New York City.

I want to share my story.

Some people call it the “pay up or shut up” model; that’s when fathers pay for child support and alimony after divorce, but loose custody of their children. In modern law, parents’ gender shouldn’t matter, only the child’s welfare is important, but research shows that judge’s bias can lead to unequal treatment in the courtroom. In the first of this three part series on single fatherhood, we look at the story of one Manhattan dad and his fight for his children after divorce.

 

Rock Band

I spoke with my son yesterday on the phone and asked him how his after school program is going.  Unfortunately, I’ve been out of town so I haven’t been able to see his transition into his new school this fall. Usually, he doesn’t tell me much but he sure was eager to let me know of a new activity.

My little man said he was in a thing they called “Rock Band.”   There is one kid who is about his age who plays guitar. He said, “Dad, I heard him play and he is good.” “He played a bunch of notes really fast on his guitar and I was Iike, WHOA!”

I asked him, “well, what are you going to play?” “Well, I’m playing the drums,”  he replied. He went on to say, “they have a bunch of pieces for the drum set but still need more cymbals, I think” “They gave me some sticks and asked me to play something, so I did.”

He let me know that they were impressed with his ability to play a beat or two. I guess he is a natural at the drums? Maybe it’s genetic.

I asked him how many other kids are in the after school activity. He said there was about five kids total. I said, “that is great!” I asked, “who else is in the band?” He said, “the teacher is playing the bass, and that is it , so far”

I told him its a great foundation for a band. He then told me that after he played a little beat, he let everyone know that his father plays drums too.

He said, “yeah, he’s a PROFESSIONAL!”

They were pretty excited to know that this kid has a dad who actually makes a living from playing music. I guess it elevated his status a little.

It might have been cooler if his dad played in an actual rock band, but I guess, two Tony Award winning broadway musicals ain’t too bad.

I think the kids would want to know what a professional musician does. Maybe I’ll come in an start a school of rock at his school in conjunction with the Rock Band class. Who knows, maybe there will be a musical made from this idea…oh wait….Andrew Lloyd Webber already took that idea.

Oh well.

It’s fun to hear how excited my son is to be involved in that activity. We’ll see if he really wants to spend more time learning drums or doing what he really seems to spend most of his time engaged in. That would be the game of soccer. He is as passionate about soccer as I was about drums at his age.

We’ll see what happens. Maybe I’ll give him a lesson or two when I get back to town.

 

 

 

 

Not just your imagination: ‘Temptations’ musical rocks

Berkeley Rep’s world premiere musical, which opened Thursday, Sept. 14, under the direction of Des McAnuff, makes songs resounding clarion calls from their opening beats — the teasing jazz piano riff of “I Can’t Get Next To You,” the ache-filled strings soaring over gentle guitar thrums in “Just My Imagination (Running Away with Me).” Richly textured, perfectly blended harmonies back lead vocals that somehow combine swaggering showmanship, meticulously honed technique and emotion of almost unbearable intensity. Channeling Eddie Kendricks, actor Jeremy Pope has an otherwordly, buttery falsetto that warbles among notes as if they were playthings. When David Ruffin (Ephraim Sykes) takes the lead on the show’s title track, abasing himself before his love for an imagined woman, he howls as if to implore the grim reaper for a few minutes more to live.

 

Read more HERE: http://m.sfgate.com/performance/article/Not-just-your-imagination-Temptations-12203077.php

 

Drummer Jokes

I only heard “dumb drummer jokes” after I got to NYC. It’s funny, because most of the drummers I know are some of the most intelligent people I know.

Where did the idea of the dumb drummer come from anyway?

These ARE funny jokes though:

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The 30 Richest Drummers in the World

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Originally posted here: http://www.celebritynetworth.com/articles/entertainment-articles/30-richest-drummers-world/

Ringo Starr – The Richest Drummers
The Richest Drummers

***The figures contained in this list were acquired from all publicly available information including salaries, real estate holdings, divorces, record sales, royalties and endorsements. The final net worths come from a formula that takes out taxes, manager’s fees, agents’ fees, and lifestyle.***

The 30 Richest Drummers in the World:

#1: Ringo Starr Net Worth – $300 Million (The Beatles)
#2: Dave Grohl Net Worth – $260 Million (Nirvana, Foo Fighters)
#3: Phil Collins Net Worth – $250 Million (Solo, Genesis)
#4: Don Henley Net Worth – $200 Million (The Eagles)
#5: Lars Ulrich Net Worth – $200 Million (Metallica)
#6: Charlie Watts Net Worth – $170 Million (The Rolling Stones)
#7: Roger Taylor Net Worth – $170 Million (Queen)
#8: Larry Mullen Jr Net Worth – $150 Million (U2)
#9: Joey Kramer Net Worth – $100 Million (Aerosmith)
#10: Nick Mason Net Worth – $100 Million (Pink Floyd)
#11: Chad Smith Net Worth – $90 Million (The Red Hot Chili Peppers)
#12: Travis Barker Net Worth – $85 Million (Blink 182, The Aquabats)
#13: Stewart Copeland Net Worth – $80 Million (The Police)
#14: Alex Van Halen Net Worth – $75 Million (Van Halen)
#15: Tommy Lee Net Worth – $70 Million (Motley Crue)
#16: Bill Ward Net Worth – $65 Million (Black Sabbath)
#17: Carter Beauford Net Worth – $65 Million (Dave Matthews Band)
#18: Jon Fishman Net Worth – $60 Million (Phish)
#19: Rick Allen Net Worth – $50 Million (Def Leppard)
#20: Tre Cool Net Worth – $45 Million (Green Day)
#21: Danny Carey Net Worth – $40 Million (Tool)
#22: Max Weinberg Net Worth – $35 Million (Bruce Springsteen and The E Street Band, Conan O’Brien)
#23: Mickey Hart Net Worth – $30 Million (The Grateful Dead)
#24: Nicko McBrain Net Worth – $30 Million (Iron Maiden)
#25: Bill Kreutzmann Net Worth – $25 Million (The Grateful Dead)
#26: Neil Peart Net Worth – $22 Million (Rush)
#27: Taylor Hawkins Net Worth – $20 Million (Foo Fighters)
#28: Tico Torres Net Worth – $20 Million (Bon Jovi)
#29: Questlove Net Worth – $16 Million (The Roots, Jimmy Fallon)
#30: Steven Adler Net Worth – $15 Million (Guns N’ Roses)
#31: Liberty DeVitto Net Worth – $15 Million (Billy Joel)
#32: Mick Fleetwood Net Worth – $8.5 Million (Fleetwood Mac)